
Last night I met with many of our Life Group leaders. We talked about some of the tensions that come as we invest in people and disciple them and equip them to step out into leadership. And leading groups of people - being the one who takes responsibility for corralling and fostering community and pushing spiritual growth - can be a tough road. A very long, tough, rocky, frustrating road. And as a leader of leaders, our natural tendency is to want to make that road smoother - to make the pain go away or to turn down the heat. We want to make it all better. But here's the reality: We can't.
If I'm being honest, we probably could. But we can't! It won't ultimately help. In fact, the very thing(s) causing the frustration, the burn - the things that are making the road so rocky - are the tensions that will bring growth, endurance, patience, and conviction. These are the things that God allows in our life to refine us - not just as His people, but in order to be the leader that He's calling us and shaping us to be. In his book, "Life Together", Dietrich Bonhoeffer makes the statement, "It is only when he is a burden that another person is really a brother and not merely an object to be manipulated." Our leaders are going to face frustrations and heartache with the people they're leading. This isn't something to be fixed - it's part of life.
Let me put it this way:
Leaders can't just bail out when things get tough.
And leaders of leaders can't bail out their leaders when things start to get tough. We can't pity them or smother them in sympathy. We have to lead them. And we have to let them know that the heat they're feeling is OK. Sure, it might burn. But the only way through the burn is to keep walking through it.
Have you been tempted to bail?
Press on! Keep going. Don't give up.
2 Peter 1:3-9
3 comments:
I am glad I came across your post. My husband and I have been talking about this very thing in our lives.
I am so thankful that God doesn't give up on the work He is doing in our lives because we start whining and complaining. As I read your post, I was reminded of
Isaiah 43:2 "When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; And through the rivers, they will not overflow you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be scorched, Nor will the flame burn you."
God promises to be with us when we pass through the waters and walk through the fire, He promises that we won't drown or won't be burned- He doesn't say it won't be hot, He says we won't be burned. But it is clear, that the path we have to take: is not around, it is through.
Great word from Isaiah! Thanks for sharing that.
I like your blog. I've thinking along some of the same lines you're talking about ... perspective, perseverance, how thankful I am at present and how good life is in spite of the fact that I'm a total oxymoron. (Maybe not the feet and nose hair thing so much) Anyway, nice blog.
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